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So I was thinking about female friendship a lot and by the way these two women I'm very honored to say have been my friends for a very long time too. Yes we have. And one of the things that I ran about female friendship is something that Savante said. You can tell a lot about someone in this case a woman by the company that she keeps. So let's start with... We're a big trouble. I'm getting one of those waters I'm extremely dry. You're taking up our time. We have a very limited just being with her sucks life out of it. You ain't seen nothing yet. Anyway. So sorry. Tell me what do you look for in a friend? I look for someone who has a sense of fun, who's audacious, who's forthcoming, who has politics, who has even a small scrap of passion for the planet. Someone who's decent has a sense of justice and who thinks I'm worthwhile.

I was thinking this morning I don't even know what I would do without my women friends. I mean I have my friends therefore I am. No it's true I exist because I have my women friends. You're one of them. I don't know about you. Anyway, they make me stronger, they make me smarter, they make me braver, they tap me on the shoulder when I might be in need of course correcting. Most of them are a good deal younger than me too. I mean it's nice. Thank you. No I do. I include you in that because listen it's nice to have somebody still around to play with and learn from when you're getting toward the end. I'm glad. I'm approaching. I'll be there sooner than you. I have you parallel aging alongside me. I'm showing you the way. No, you are and you have. Well as we grow older and as we go through different kinds of life journeys what do you do to keep your friendships vital and alive? Well you have to use a lot of strength. She doesn't invite me over much I'll tell you that. I have to use a lot of social media. You'll be quiet now. And I go through, I look through my emails, I look through my texts to find my friends so I can answer them as quickly as possible because I know they need my counsel.

They need my support because most of my friends are writers or activists or actors in your all three and a long string of other descriptive phrases and I want to get to you as soon as possible. I want you to know that I'm there for you. Do you do emojis? No, I'm really into emojis. No I spell out my words of happiness and congratulations and sadness. You spell it right out there. I spell it every letter. Such a purest. You know as I've gotten older I've understood more the importance of friendships and so I really make an effort to reach out and make play dates, not let too much time go by. I read a lot so I have as little knows all too well. I send my books that I like, I send to my friends. When we knew we would be here today you sent me a lot of books about women female friendships and I was so surprised to see how many books, how much research has been done recently and were you grateful? I was grateful. And wait no it's really important because this is another example of how women are overlooked, what aside, marginalized, there's been very little research done on us even though we've volunteered lots of times. And this is really exciting and you all will be interested in this. The Harvard Medical School study has shown that women who have close female friendships are less likely to develop impairments, physical impairments as they age and they are likely to be seen to be living much more vital, exciting and longer. Joyful lives.

We live five years longer than men. I think I trade the years for joy. And with the most important part is they found, the results were so exciting and so conclusive that the researchers found that not having close female friends is detrimental to your health as much as smoking or being overweight. Well and there's something else too. I've said my part. Okay, well listen to my part because there's an additional thing that because they only for years, decades, they only researched men when they were trying to understand stress. Only very recently have they researched what happens to women when we're stressed and it turns out that when we're stressed women, our bodies get flooded by oxytocin, which is a feel good calming stress reducing hormone, which is also is increased when we're with our women friends. And I do think that's one reason why we live longer.

And I feel so bad for men because they don't have that. Testosterone in men diminishes the effects of oxytocin. So when you and I and Dolly made nine to five, we laughed, we laughed, we did, we laughed so much, we found we had so much in common and it's so different. Here she is like Hollywood royalty. I'm like the tough kid from Detroit. She's a southern kid from a poor town in Tennessee and we found we were so in sync as women and we must have we laughed, we must have added at least a decade onto our life span. I think we sure crossed our legs a lot. If you know what I mean. I think you are on the right now. You're adding decades to our lives right now. So among the books that Jane sends us both to read on female friendship was one by a woman we admire greatly, sister Joan Chisteter who said about female friendship that women, women friends are not just a social act, they are a spiritual act. Do you think of your friends as spiritual do they add something spiritual to your life? Spiritual, I absolutely think that and because especially people you've known a long time, people you've spent time with, I can see the spiritual essence inside them, the tenderness, the vulnerability.

There's actually kind of a love, an element of love in the relationship. I just see deeply into your soul. Do you think that Jane, my friends should have come over. Well there's all kinds of friends, there's business friends and party friends. I've got a lot of those. But the oxytocin producing friendships have, they feel spiritual because it's a hard opening. We go deep and I find that I shed tears a lot with my intimate friends, not because I'm sad but because I'm so touched and inspired by them. And you know one of you is going to go soon. Well two of us are sitting here lily with my daughter. And I always think when women talk about their friendships, that men always look a little mystified. What are the differences in your opinion between men, friendships and women? There's a lot of difference and I think we have to have a lot of empathy for men that they don't have what we have, which I think maybe why they die sooner. I have a lot of compassion for men because women, no kidding. Women's relationships, our friendships, our full disclosure. We go deep, they're revelatory. We risk vulnerability.

This is something men don't do. I mean how many times have I asked you, am I doing okay? Did I really screw up there? You know they're going to be great. But I mean we ask questions like that of our women friends and men don't, you know people describe women's relationships as face to face, whereas men's friendships are more side by side. I mean most of the time men don't want to reveal their emotions, they want to bury deeper feelings. That's the general conventional thought. They would rather go off in their man cave and watch a game or hit golf balls or talk about sports or hunting or cars or have sex. I mean it's just a kind of, it's a more manly behavior. You meant to talk about sex. I meant, I think my sex if they could get somebody in their man cave. But you know something really though that I find very interesting. And again, psychologists didn't know this until relatively recently is that men are born, everybody's relational as women are. If you look at films of newborn baby boys and girls, you'll see the baby boys just like the girls gazing into their mother's eyes, you know needing that relational exchange of energy when the mother looks away, they could see the dismay on the child, even the boy would cry. They need relationships. So the question is why as they grow older does that change? And the answer is patriarchal culture, which says to boys and young men that to be needy of relationship, to be emotional with someone is girly. You know that a real man doesn't ask directions or express a need, whereas women's sense of self has always been kind of porous.

But our we is our saving grace. It's what makes us strong. It's not that we're better than men, we just don't have our masculinity to prove. And well, that's a glorious time. So we can express our humanity. I know you know who she is, but I think it's a great quote I think. We're not better than men, we just don't have our masculinity to prove. And that's really important. Men are so inculcated in the culture to be comfortable in the patriarchy. And we've got to make something different happen. Women's friendships are like a renewable source of power. That's what's exciting about this subject is because our friendships, female friendships are just a hop to our sisterhood. And sisterhood can be a very powerful force to give the world to make it what it should be, the things that humans desperately need.

It is why we're talking about it because women's friendships are, as you said, a renewable source of power. So how do we use that power? Well, women are the fastest growing demographic in the world, especially older women. And if we harness our power, we can change the world. And guess what? We need to. And we need to do it soon. And one of the things that we need to do, and we can do it as women for one thing, we kind of set the consumer standards. We need to consume less. We in the Western world need to consume less. And when we buy things, we need to buy things that are made locally. When we buy food, we need to buy food that's grown locally. We're the ones that need to get off the grid. We need to make ourselves independent from fossil fuels.

And the fossil fuel companies, the exons and the shell oils and those bad guys, because they are, are going to tell us that we can't do it without going back to the Stone Age, you know, that the alternative just quite aren't quite there yet. That's not true. There are countries in the world right now that are living mostly on renewable energy and doing just fine. And they tell us that if we do wean ourselves from fossil fuel that we're going to be back in the Stone Age. And in fact, if we begin to use renewable energy and not drill in the Arctic and not drill in the Alberta tar sands, right, that we will be there'll be more democracy and more jobs and more well-being. And it can be the only way. Maybe we have the momentum to start a third wave feminist movement with our sisterhood around the world with women we don't see women we may never meet, but we join together that way.

Because I mean, our Aristotle said most people would die without male friendships because in the operative word here was male. And they, because they thought that friendships should be between equals and women were not considered equal. They didn't think we had souls. No. Exactly. That shows you just how limited Aristotle was. And wait, no, here's the best part. It's like, you know, men do need women now. The planet needs women. The US Constitution needs women. We are not even in the Constitution. You're talking about the equal rights of men. Right. Yes. Ginsburg said something like since the, every Constitution that's been written since the end of World War II included a provision that made women's citizens of equal stature, but ours does not. So that would be a good place to start. Very, very mild. Right. And gender equality, it's like a tie. It would lift all boats. Not just women. We need to be leading new role models on how to do that, how to be friends, how to think about our power in different ways as consumers, as citizens of the world. And this is what makes Jane and Lily a role model of how women can be friends for a very long time, and even if they occasionally disagree. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you.